My question was "Were we or were we not supposed to sympathize with April?" Because of the character limit, I didn't get to say all I wanted to say. Mostly I tied it in with the Xmas dinner kids' table insult (though I didn't say "insult") and suggested that Dee and Mike might have done better to personally and sincerely thank April for the use of her room, and tell her that from then on, she could always count on them, and that the words "kids' table" should never have come up. (I should have said "As it was, they acted as if there was simply a room available at the Patterson house that no one else needed." But I didn't think of it until just now.)
What I also didn't get to say was that I'm not sure April owed Mike and Dee anything. Yeah, Mike changed Apes' diapers a few times, aeons ago. But neither he nor Deanna has fed (in the sense of buying food), clothed or housed her, so I think there was a limit to how much she should have given up for them. Now, if she had been shown being asked by John, Elly or both to do this for them, I could understand better. But in that case, there should have been an assurance that it would only be for a short time. Which makes me wonder: All the people saying April didn't appreciate her circumstances, would they do this to their kid? It's appalling in retrospect that neither of April's parents ever had a moment of clarity and said, "Hey, Mike, April really needs her room back; are you making ANY progress?" And I also should have said that it was disturbing that April told Elly right to her face that she was nearing the end of her rope, and Elly
But in the end, I went with the Christmas speech because it was the most glurgey. It's the kind of thing that if Lynn DID do it, KAN would eat it up. So why didn't she?!