February 12th, 2013

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Wednesday, 13 February 2013

We restart the Valentine's arc with an echo of Sunday's strip owing to Elly believing that she's the one who Michael is saving the nicest looking card is for.

(Strip Number 549, Original Publication Date, 13 February 1984)

Panel 1: As our story continues, we find Michael signing his name on all the Valentine's cards he's supposed to give his classmates. Elly marvels at all of them, holds up the fanciest looking one of the lot and asks who it's for.

Panel 2: She smiles behind her hand as Mike blanks out for a second before saying "I dunno...somebody, I guess. Haven't figured out who...just....somebody." owing to her probably thinking that it's for her.

Panel 3: He watches her leave the room without really realizing that the big smile on her face means that she thinks that she guilted him into getting her a nice card.

Panel 4: His writing "For Deanna" on the card thus means that once again, Elly's 'hard work', 'caring' and 'sacrifice' has gone unrewarded.

Summary: karisu_sama is right to assume that "sweet little gesture" equates to "poor, put-upon Elly." I wonder if the notes will reflect that by having Lynn regret disappointing thin-skinned egomaniac idiot Dad again.
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Intergenerational effects of narcissistic parenting......

The strangest thing happened when I was looking a Wikipedia entry. The strange thing is that I saw this passage:

Children of a difficult, more stubborn temperament defend against being supportive of others in the house. They observe how the selfish parents get his needs met by others. They learn how manipulation and using guilt gets the parent what he or she wants. They develop a false self and use aggression and intimidation to get their way. These children grow up to be Narcissistic themselves.

The sensitive, guilt-ridden children in the family learn to meet the parent’s needs for gratification and try to get love by accommodating the whims and wishes of the parent. The child’s normal feelings are ignored, denied and eventually repressed in attempts to gain the parent’s “love.” Guilt and shame keep the child locked into this developmental arrest. Their aggressive impulses become split off and are not integrated with normal development. These children grow up learning to give too much and develop a false self of becoming co-dependent in their relationships.

and immediately thought about Mike, Lizzie and April. Weird, hum?