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    Friday, April 25th, 2014
    False dilemmas and fake, made-up sacrifices.
    The other problem I have with the patented Pattersonian belief that children MUST sacrifice because they're selfish little bastards who have life too easy is a sibling to John's inability to realize that Mike, Liz and April live hellish lives of constant fear and apprehension because they never freaking know when Elly will explode with blind rage or when Daddy will either threaten or just plain use violence to avenge a slight that only exists in his pea brain. Said also-lie is the one he and Elly tell themselves about their children are riding rough-shod over helpless parents who totally don't have their children dominated. We see this in full effect in this Easter strip in which Elly does NOT react well to being told "You're bullying your helpless child to make yourself look good. KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF,  PATTERSON!!!!!!" The angry look on Elly's face comes directly from her being unjustly accused of using her greater size and greater ability to enforce her will to bludgeon a frightened child into doing something terrifying to make Mommy happy. Even though we all know that Lizzie is going to get a lecture about being a bad kid who can't be loved because she hates her poor mother later on, Elly does not and can not admit that she's a domineering jackass who guilt trips her kids into doing things they hate because Mommy's needs are more important than theirs. Hell, she doesn't even understand WHY Lizzie lied about the bag of milk because there's no way that she'd run her damned mouth about how Lizzie deliberately did a bad thing to make her poor mother's life worse because she would listen to her children. She's not some closed-minded jerk who will never admit to being wrong! She admits to making mistakes all the time.....that is, of course, when she makes them.

    In short, the reason why we have to look at "You must sacrifice for once or we cannot love you" is that its sibling "You must let us raise our children as we see fit or we'll just be steamrolled" is waiting in the wings, ready to distract outsiders with its brazen bullshittery.
    Thursday, April 24th, 2014
    "Dirty Mind Dirty Mouth (Pretty Little Head)." (Les Miserables) R

    Title: Dirty Mind Dirty Mouth (Pretty Little Head). (On Archive Of Our Own)
    Author: [personal profile] lannamichaels
    Fandom: Les Miserables
    Series: Permets-Tu
    Pairing: Enjolras/Grantaire
    Rating: R
    A/N: The title is from Pretty Little Head by Eliza Rickman. Thanks to Welcome To Night Vale for solving my title search problems!

    Summary: Don't look ahead in the calendar. Or, ten orders Grantaire receives.

    Way too much funCollapse )

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    That band
    Here's the band I was hearing. I was wrong about the song but it IS similar I think.
    The Seals That Got Away

    Watch this and help where one can. Remember.........unconditional love has no walls or borders. Unconditional love helps where one can in any place for all when one has the means. Remember who you are, and remember the love that you are : * )
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    And we also had pastries from La Farm-- fantastic bakery. I am so so so hyper. I wonder when I'm coming down off of this cloud? I may drive you crazy with the posting and the posting. SORRY DUDE.
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    Sign this PETITION if you want the IRS dis mantled ( destroyed ) : D You do not have to be a voter to sign this, be registered to any thing, or be long to any thing. Just sign it and take back your FREEDOM !

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    The band that's playing today in studio B sounds like they're playing "Little Deuce Coupe" but all I can really hear are the drums and the bass line, so it could be something similar but not. And we got shot glasses today, so even though it's very repetitive and drummy we're forgiving them. Yes, we each got a shot glass with the station logo. So in the glassware department (besides coffee cups) we now have 2 Champagne flutes, 2 On-the-rocks and a shot glass. We need wine glasses or martini glasses next. Yes, I don't want much!
    So I've been suffering from earworms again. I didn't realize it, but chemo seems to have subdued them and now they're back. First I had that blasted "Happy" song in my head for like a week, and then it was some car commercial-- I don't know the name of the song, and now it's "Baby Beluga." BABY BELUGA?! We saw a sofa where the color was listed as "Beluga"-- but it was brown. And Beluga whales are white. Anyway-- since they were gone for so long when I was actually under the worse stress of my life, I'm now thinking that it is a brain thing that probably can be subdued by medication. Freaky.
    On Lynn's failed attempts at making a soap opera.
    If I had to guess, I would say that instead of "Peanuts" or "Family Circus", Lynn's real favorite strip is Sex Orga......Rex Morgan, MD. The reason is that she kept on trying to turn a subversion of the happy homemaker trope into a D-grade soap opera. While she did go on record as saying that she wanted Susan to be the go-to threat to Elly's marriage, it seems to me that Connie was probably meant to be the villain who laughed at Elly for daring to have happiness because plain girls were meant to sit there and whine about they could never be happy or have families and all that other high school bullshit that Lynn still believes. The reason is that Connie, as howtheduck said, is that Connie is a Frankenstein's monster made of stereotypes. First off, she was 'supposedly' an outspoken feminist written by a woman who feared and hated them because of her fear of never pleasing her mother. Second, she was the divorced single mother of a biracial child when that meant rebelling against polite society and what the Hell ever. Third, she was implied to be really evil and not only have sex but also enjoy it instead of being GOOD and fearing and hating the terrifying and evil feeling of release. Finally, she was way too complimentary of John. Add that up and you get a man-eater and husband-stealer who would never have apologized for enforcing the 'natural' order.

    Thank God that Lynn is kind of a chicken because that would have destroyed the dynamic we have now. The people who like the strip want to be angry about a lot of little things about their husbands and children and their life in general because despite having a pretty good life, they're all filled with a free-floating rage directed at all those little things. It would mess things up if she went from validating (or, as she would put it, vindicating) women who feel angry about an ill-defined something that has its source in the question "Is this all there is?" to scaring them shitless with the idea that their lives could turn to shit in a heartbeat. Instead of marvelling at her creativity, her people would be angry at John for doing more than the leering they can tolerate, Connie for stealing a man, Elly for being a doormat and especially Lynn for making it happen.
    Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
    Thursday, April 24th, 2014
    False dichotomies, emotional blackmail and other wonderful parenting techniques.
    As we all know, the reason that Elly and John love Eva Warzone and believe her to be a wonderful influence on their selfish, spoiled, rotten and ungrateful picky-face Martian creature princess daughter is that she loves to play the filthy trick called "appealing to shame." Always and ever, the need to not care about the problems April has is coached in terms that make the poor thing look and feel like a total jerk because she's too busy trying to defend herself to notice the ludicrous underlying assumption. Unlike the panicky chowderhead from Stone Soup who's too dim to notice that she's relying on a repulsively idiotic assumption to silence Holly, Eva knows damned well how churlish it is to say "Since you care about immediate concerns, it follows logically you cannot care about greater ones and are thus selfish" owing to the fact that that assumption is false and stupid.

    The reason that I mention this is that it's a subset of a greater problem that the children face. Time and again, John and Elly tell a child a variant of the phrase "Either you do something very inconvenient that will do nothing to benefit you and for which you will never be given any credit for or you're a bad, ungrateful child who hates us and whom we cannot love" in order to get what they want by means of emotional blackmail. Since a small child as a general rule and the Patterson children in particular live in a constant state of anxiety as to if Mom and Dad love them and want them around and also since children want to prove that they're good kids who deserve to be loved, it's kind of obvious that this nasty, selfish and brutish tactic works. The problem is not just that there is no need for the child to sacrifice to prove their moral worth or that John and Elly have no need for what the children surrender. The problem is that no matter what the children do, it's never going to be good enough because their oafish clod parents think that their children live care-free lives and never have to worry about anything. The occasional reminder that Mike, Lizzie and April groaned under the burden of the too-high expectations of tyrant parents who are incapable of love or tolerance or acceptance was blown off as drama because they don't see themselves as what they are: monsters of greed, selfishness and hate.
    Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
    The AO3 Hits Meme v4

    Because this continues to be really fun and cool. :D

  • 2011 version

  • 2012 version

  • 2013 version

  • The top ten list:

  • 9682: The Pornography Is For Science. (Les Miserables)

  • 8501: You Get Me Closer To God. (Les Miserables)

  • 8306: Handjobs and Hand Grenades.(Les Miserables)

  • 7466: Make You Come Undone. (Les Miserables)

  • 7141: Polish Your Boots.(Les Miserables)

  • 6844: Let Them Eat Pancakes. (Les Miserables)

  • 4838: I'm In The Details With The Devil.(Les Miserables)

  • 4815: You Put The Spike In My Heart. (Les Miserables)

  • 4736: Scenes From An Inconvenient Espionage Love Story. (Les Miserables/James Bond)

  • 4665: This Is Not An Epistolary Romance. (Les Miserables)

  • After last year's top ten having 5 different fandoms on it, we are back to monofandom domination. 9 out of 10 are in the same series, and the sole hold-out is a crossover fusion between Les Mis and Bond that's more on the Les Mis side than Bond. That crossover is notable for fecking dominating kudos and bookmarks: it has twice as many kudos as the second most kudos (454 to The Pornography Is For Science's 239); it frankly smashes everything away in terms of bookmarks (163 total, 131 of them public). The hit count to kudos ratio on this fic is just really flattering :P and based on the continuing kudos count and stuff, I'm guessing this will be a hit count climber. Which was *really not expected* when I was writing it.

    It's going to be interesting to see which of the porn ones have staying power and which don't. I have no predictions for next year other than that I think the spy AU will keep doing well. I'm not sure how the porn ones will reshuffle themselves or fall off completely; some of that will probably depend on what I write in the next year.

    Looking back on previous top-tenners, Barrayar Expects is at #12, with a hit count of 4406, which is a huge gain (1,424). I blame some of this for the fact that I promoted this to copperbadge on tumblr when he was talking about fandom AUs, and I think it was at ~3900 when I did that. I didn't get many kudos, so I honestly hadn't realized how much the hit count jumped up. I'm guessing people might have clicked on the link, but I don't know how many of them back-buttoned immediately and how many actually read it. :P

    The highest Petyaverse is Lord Piotr, at #23. It has been passed by Five Things Matt Smith Didn't Do (#16), And All Shall Be Well (#17), Good Use (#18), and DEAR GOD WHY The Slashers' Guide to Return of the King (#19). [2003. I WROTE THIS FIC IN 2003. IT'S NOT AT ALL GOOD. NOBODY SHOULD READ THIS FIC.]

    Anyway, since all of the fics were posted within the last 15 months, even though I do have this table going back to 2011... I'm only showing you 2013 and 2014. :P

    Rank (2014)Fic with URLpost date with yearHits (2014)Rank (2013)Hits (2013)Hit Count Difference (2013 to 2014)
    1The Pornography Is For Science.February 18, 2013 (1 years, 2 months, 5 days ago)9682140165666
    2You Get Me Closer To God.May 1, 2013 (0 years, 11 months, 22 days ago)8501New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10
    3Handjobs and Hand Grenades.February 28, 2013 (1 years, 1 months, 26 days ago)8306232215085
    4Make You Come Undone.April 10, 2013 (1 years, 0 months, 13 days ago)7466New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10
    5Polish Your Boots.May 14, 2013 (0 years, 11 months, 9 days ago)7141New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10
    6Let Them Eat Pancakes.March 17, 2013 (1 years, 1 months, 6 days ago)6844423614483
    7I'm In The Details With The Devil.June 30, 2013 (0 years, 9 months, 24 days ago)4838New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10
    8You Put The Spike In My Heart.May 22, 2013 (0 years, 11 months, 1 days ago)4815New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10
    9Scenes From An Inconvenient Espionage Love Story.June 17, 2013 (0 years, 10 months, 6 days ago)4736New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10
    10This Is Not An Epistolary Romance.April 14, 2013 (1 years, 0 months, 9 days ago)4665New to top 10New to top 10New to top 10

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    1. When was the last time you went on a picnic?


    2. What time did you get up this morning?


    3. What is your favorite leftover meal?

    for the record
    Just for the record-- we had an ice cream bar at work today. And not ice cream BARS, but ladies scooping ice cream and then a selection of toppings. YUM. We are quite spoiled.
    Achieving victory over self-reliance.
    As we know from history, the Liz that left the Pattermanse was as big a slob as the girl who left and could maybe cook Kraft Dinner while Mike tended to leave the housework for Deanna so he could fort up in his attic and churn out dreck. This is because of the other reason that Elly never took trips by herself again. Not only did she not want to face a future in which her husband and children didn't weep hysterically because they couldn't go on without her, she also didn't want to live in a world wherein they could really take care of themselves. A Liz who could cook and clean and look after herself was as horrible a failure as a Michael who could look after the house and give Deanna some help and time to herself for the very horrible reason that if Elly isn't really needed, she automatically has to just walk on down to the mortuary, hop in a coffin and make an ash of herself because without a reason to live, she must as a matter of course die like all other totally useless things. As much as she wants her freedom, she also wants to have others dependent on her so it can mean something. Trying to tell her that she can't have it both ways leads to her or her asswipe sidekick husband steamrolling people into compliance via a false dilemma.
    Happy Wangsday!



    I missed the news cycle, but apparently someone at an airlines is either terrible at doing his job or amazing at quitting his job and tweeted a very, very, VERY NSFW picture of a nude girl and a model plane


    This is the SFW re-enactment posted after the tweet was taken down:


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    just a pet peeve
    I just saw a great example of a pet peeve of mine-- simple recipes made complicated. I saw "Green Beans with Garlic." We all love green beans AND garlic and I have created my own on the fly, so I clicked to open. It had 11 ingredients.

    I particularly hate watching a cooking show where the topic is supposed to be quick recipes or simple weeknight dinners and then they keep adding stuff to it. Like we all have Food Network pantries at home. And also recipes where I do have everything, but it seems like it's just been made complicated for the sake of being complicated. Like no dish needs canned tomatoes AND tomato paste AND ketchup. PICK ONE.

    My other SERIOUS recipe pet peeve is "One Pot Meals" that require boiling pasta or cooking rice-- in a separate pot-- before putting the dish together. That's not ONE pot. That's two. Don't lie to me to make me look at your recipe. LIARS.

    That is all. Over and out. Have a nice day!
    Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
    Two Days to Open!
    The show is finally getting some good momentum.  Last night was tech, so it started off choppy but the run itself was quite good.  I was feeling a little self-conscious because I'm still getting notes to keep my volume up and the director is no longer happy with a couple beats in my big monologue.  I threw a bad cue, but we recovered okay and I looked over that part really well before I left the theatre...and thank Zod for that, because I can't find my script this morning   >.<

    I found a preview article my friend Ron wrote about the show for his weekly arts column.  He actually gave me a nice shout-out:
    " Stage Manager par excellence, ghost_light  will appear in the show in a return to acting as the technical director, who secretly wants to be a star herself."


    The full article is here:

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